Understand The Situation
Get very clear with yourself as to why this relationship was established in the first place. If the situation is fitting and your partner is someone you are committed to being with, admit that you have been having emotional affairs.
This of course includes breaking off the extra marital affair, and coming clean with the person you have been having the affair with. If not, break up with the person, sitting the unmet needs. It is always better to admit what has been going on to avoid regretting it later. It is always better to hear it from you than someone else.
